Saturday, January 28, 2012

Good Night???

After a very long day/week/month of work I was feeling completely exhausted.  One thing I look forward too is the comfort of my bed, fleece sheets, cozy warmth.  I am typically a very sound sleeper.  TYPICALLY!  However, I ran into some stumbling blocks this week.  My fiance has also had some difficult days at work.  I suppose this is why his sleep has been so restless [that is me trying to be sympathetic].  One thing that you can count on while I am sleeping is me being downright mean when my sleep is interrupted, it is almost as if I am another person I am horrible![that is me admitting my faults] Sleep this week has been well let me just describe some of this for you: About 12:30 A.M. I finally crash. 12:45 A.M. I am awakened to the sound of blissful snoring, grunting, and to top it off smacking.  Real, hardcore lip smacking, deep mouth smacks.  I also have to say on my list of pet peeves is smacking lips and mouth noises normally this only occurs during the course of a meal and I have actually had to leave dinner tables due to horrible, disgusting, revolting noises that people make while eating.  So, here it is, I just fall asleep, I hear one of the things that makes me insane this ='s me turning into the exorcist!  And after numerous attempts to make this ungodly, unbearable noise stop I kick/nudge the blissful sleeping man next to me [in the leg].  This ='s arguing.  Here is the argument- "I can't control my sleeping, you shouldn't kick me. You woke me up and I couldn't fall back to sleep". My question here is this " WHAT THE CURSE ABOUT ME"? "I couldn't fall back to sleep! I couldn't make the noise stop! I had to resort to violence to make it stop". [by the way it wasn't a hard kick it was definitely more of nudge!] Wow - Fit to be tied was an understatement here.

The question presented herein is this:  Who is right? While it may not have been in his control to stop the concert of disgusting noises it was also not in my control to attempt to make it all stop.  I too was awakened out of a sweet slumber and had a difficult time falling back to sleep.  Maybe [just maybe] the nudge/ kick should not have occurred.  However, what else is a girl to do when she needs a good night's sleep? 

I have also been forced to stop and think of how I could get some sort of lesson out of this.  And my only lesson here is sometimes two wrongs or even one wrong don't make a right. Sometimes there is no real or true wrong or right and sometimes people have to agree to disagree.  And that's ok.  Maybe we are both wrong.  Maybe only one of us [not me of course...] is wrong [ok, maybe I am].  Sometimes I guess it's ok to say sorry even when feeling not completely at fault. Seeing things from another angle in order to restore our sleep and our friendship and relationship may just be the only thing to do.  While I can stand firm on my stance to prove my point of view I can also gently approach this and accept my part in it all. 

So I will end with leaving anyone who takes the time to read my ramblings with some things to think about.  First, why does there have to be a right or wrong person?  Why is it more important to relay a message of being right than accepting the differences among us all and knowing that sometimes we just won't all agree? And lastly some great quotes:

"Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future". ~Paul Boese
"Remember, we all stumble, every one of us. That's why it's a comfort to go hand in hand". ~Emily Kimbrough
"For every minute you are angry, you lose sixty seconds of happiness". ~Author Unknown
"The most important trip you may take in life is meeting people halfway". ~Henry Boye


  1. I tend to nudge mine gently on the shoulder until he vaguely wakes up and I say "dear, I can't sleep, you're making too much noise". It does suck when you're both stressed though :/

  2. Maybe I should try that next time...hopefully there won't be a next time. LOL...

    1. Been married for nearly 40 years and I have no compunctions about kicking the old man whenever he wakes me up with some kind of disgusting noise. Why is it that men can't just breathe quietly?? Fantasies I've had include clothespins on his nose and duct tape over his mouth. I work, I need to sleep. Why can't he just SHUT UP? I'm seriously considering moving into the guest room to get a nice quiet night's sleep.